
i just rediscovered this quote from velveteen rabbit:
"you become. It takes a long time. that's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. but these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
when i was going through a particularly tough time in my life, a dear friend called to tell me two things: that she loved me and that i would have more texture now and that's a good thing. this quote says much the same. hope this encourages you.