HE’S HOME!!!!!!!!!!! sweet readers, there aren’t words for how excited i’ve been to write those exact words. as many of you have likely noticed, ryan has been deployed for the past six months. it has been an incredible season for our little family.
it has also been really challenging not to share with you on this space. for his safety, and out of respect for his mission, as well as for Ellie & my safety, we made the decision not to post about the deployment on t&f or social media until he was safely home. we made this decision with great care and hope you can understand why.
that said, I’ve been writing posts about our experience the entire time he’s been gone. I wanted to write them as they happened, so they would be as authentic and honest as possible. I have those posts lined up for the next few weeks and am so excited to share them with you. as Ellie & I spend time with our amazing husband/dad, we hope you will read about this season of life we’ve just come through.
I do want to be really clear about a few things before we dive in – these posts ONLY represent our family’s experience on this deployment. they do not speak for military families, Navy families, or even our family in a future deployment. I’m quite certain even another family in Ryan’s squadron who just went through this exact deployment would have very different things to say about these same things – it’s really important we all understand that every deployment and every family is different.
what this means is, if you are a military family, I hope you find things that resonate with you, or even one small thing in these posts would be helpful to you, but I also know I have a lot to learn from you – and that your experiences have given you a different perspective. and if you are a civilian, I’m so grateful if you take the time to read these posts and try to understand what it’s like for a military family to go through a deployment. It means so much and I honestly think the future of our military depends on more civilians really engaging with and supporting military families. that said, please be careful if you have other military families in your life – know that reading these posts will not mean you understand what they’ve been through, it’s highly likely their experiences were quite difference. the branch of military (Army, Navy, Marine Corps, Air Force) means dramatically different length of deployments, communication capacities during deployment, levels of danger, and communities of support – the continuum is quite broad.
my hope is these posts can be a prompt for some good questions, or deeper engagement on what a deployment really means, or for considering, in some new way, the service and sacrifice of those families, but reading these posts is not a substitute for actually going through one.
finally, I’ve worked really hard on these posts to ensure they are honest, authentic, and as vulnerable as I can be on such a public platform --- and to be honest, that’s nerve wracking on a lot of levels. this is an incredibly sensitive subject, not just for me, Ryan & Ellie, but for a lot of people – all I ask is that you’re respectful of that. please feel free to stop reading at any point, I will understand. if you disagree strongly, you are fully entitled to your opinion, but please remember how your words will affect others in the comments section. Because Ellie & I will be focused on spending as much time with Ryan as possible, I’m not going to be able to closely monitor the comments & ask you keep this a kind place.
with all those disclaimers (thank you for hanging with me!) I’m excited to dive in! the upcoming posts will cover the story of this deployment for our family, some of the really practical things we learned along the way, and a really important acknowledgement of the friends & family who walked with us through this season.
for now, we're going to welcome Ryan home -- today!!!!!!!!!!!!!
p.s. i'll be on instagram from time to time documenting our family of three together in the coming weeks -- feel free to follow me at tulipsandflightsuits or here!